Goodbye 2012. Hello 2013

December 31, 2012

I love the ritual of saying goodbye to one year, and embracing the possibility of the next.

My first order of business this year is to turn my blogging efforts away from navel-gazing and on to searching out the stories of others.  Please look for my new blog in 2013,, and you can “like” it on facebook here.

This illstrated excerpt from a Maurice Sendak interview sums up my feelings about all the joy and sorrow, all the uncertainty and beauty in the world.

“Something I find as I am aging, that I am in love with the world…Live your life.  Live your life.  Live your life.”

Rest in peace, Maurice Sendak

I wish you all good things.  Happy New Year!


December 25, 2012

helping-handsIt is Christmas Eve. Presents are wrapped, finally. The fire is glowing, as are a few candles. The tree is lit. The only offensive light is coming from my laptop. I am warm, safe and thankful for so much.

But I enter Christmas Day with a very heavy heart. I have seen sadness and loss and pain in my time, but never have I watched so many people I love struggling at once with such major stuff. Added to that are thoughts of the recent school shooting in Connecticut, and the knowledge that violence is still such a huge part of our world.

First, I feel inept in my ability to help. Then I feel inept at how to prepare my children to process scary news when they hear, and to meet the challenges they may one day face. Whatever plans we make, whatever policies are changed, catastrophe will always come to some, and it can arrive in the blink of an eye.  The only real comforting idea I have seen is a quote from Mr. Rogers that talks about looking for where the helpers are in times of trouble.  And indeed, seeing our capacity to help others is a comfort.

Today a friend of mine lies in the hospital, having been unconscious for a month following a cardiac episode – his recovery uncertain, though not without hope, and his role as breadwinner decidedly compromised.

His wife soldiers on, doing what needs to be done for their daughters, with the support of an amazing community and the heavy load of scary times.  She faces the struggle that is the worst fear for many of us.

So if you are inclined to be a helper, there is a fund established to aid in meeting the financial needs brought on by this medical crisis, details here.  You can read about their journey here.

Thanks for taking the time to read this post.

Peace to you all.

Happy Holidays

December 22, 2012

This has been a good year for us. As I type this, my children are watching the Rockettes’ Christmas special on Netflix and dancing in their seats to music just like their Grandpa Jim used to do. The fire is roaring, the tree is lit, and all of us have voiced how fortunate we are to have so much warmth and love in our lives.

It has been a long year, and a good one. Mom and Dad live in different places, but only a stone’s throw away, so the kids’ world is still small in many good ways.  This school year has been wonderful, thanks to some wonderful teachers.  Each kid is becoming a better reader, a more adept debater (sigh), and a more vigilant pioneer of kindness.  They teach me every day what matters and how I can be better.  I am grateful to be their mom.


And per Charlotte’s note above, we wish you all love, peace and cuddleness.  Here are a few other images from our year.  Happy holidays everyone.

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