The Little Things

October 14, 2011

Now that I have a 30 minute commute, books on CD from the library are my new favorite thing. I just began I’m Proud of You by Tim Madigan, a memoir of his friendship with Fred Rogers. That’s Mr. Rogers to…well…everybody.

It is early on in the book, but already so clear that Mr. Rogers impacted this man’s life because his friendship consistently brought this author unconditional love and acceptance and understanding. The impact that experience made is so lovely I may have to stop listening because I can’t be showing up to work with tears in my eyes.

It is amazing what a difference we make when we take a moment to treat the people in our lives that way, show them they matter and are important.

Today I happen to see a couple of people I haven’t seen in sometime because going back to work has changed my schedule. Both stopped to tell me they missed me and their faces made me believe it was really true. Those expressions come at a particularly weary time in this difficult process.  What a kind thing it is to have someone tell you that, make you feel your presence matters and its absence noticed.

So to all those sweet folks who have said that to me lately, I was so touched I forgot to tell you this:

“I miss you, too!”



October 9, 2011

I love stories of being different and making it work, stories of people who feel “different” and still find a place in society where their palpable different-ness is at home.

Look Me in the Eye by John Elder Robison is the memoir of a brilliant mind and great storyteller.  Along with his fantastic experiences as sound and pyrotechnic engineer for KISS in the late 1970s is the rich perspective  of a self-described misfit who found his way, found his gifts, and found a way to feel important in society.

You might also recognize him as the brother of Augusten Burroughs who is portrayed in most of Burroughs’s books.

The tales he recounts that he gave his son about Santa Claus alone are worth the read.  What brings a more honest reflection of an American Christmas than a Santa who drinks too much and steals from toy companies?  There is also drama, abuse and reconciliation and the successful search for profound self-acceptance.

I highly recommend it.